25 May 2012
Congratulations to new American Idol Phillip Phillips for achieving his dream.
Everyone has a dream. Only problem is, when real life’s going well, the dream goes on the back burner.
Take me for example. I’ve wanted to write a novel since I was 17, but all sorts of important events kept intruding:
- – first job, at the public library (busy reading books so didn’t have time to write one)
- – first serious boyfriend
- – leaving home and going flatting
- – boyfriend number two
- – new car, sports hatch
- – moving to London
- – exciting job in the City
- – English boyfriend, stockbroker natch
- – and so it goes on…
You get the drift don’t you? Many reasons to procrastinate, and all of a sudden you’re old enough to have a 17 year old, and you still haven’t written the first chapter of your staggering work of genius.
So what happened to change things, and why did I start writing? Fast forward to boyfriend number 21 and job number 13. (We’ll ignore the fact that at my age you don’t actually call them boyfriends, but partners). Things weren’t going well – the boyfriend was cheating and the job sucked more than a brand new Dyson.
Then it hit me. The best respite from real life is the dream. I’d almost forgotten mine – to tell the boss to sod off, spend my days writing and become a best-selling author. Did I mention the glamorous boyfriend who’s a wealthy literary agent?
So with the perseverance that had eluded me since first imagining I could write, I sat down at the keyboard (after work of course) and idea by idea, chapter by chapter, 300 pages of hope materialised. And as so often happens when you’re moving towards a goal, life improves and good things come your way.
The latest boyfriend (make that partner) is kind, generous, likes the dogs, and is easy on the eye. Looks a bit like Brad Pitt if you have beer goggles on.
The new job is challenging, pays well, and the boss is a smart bloke who feeds you material for Twitter and doesn’t mind if you get to work late (and leave early). You love it so much you could work a 10 hour day, six days a week, and never retire.
But there’s the problem. It’s so good your dream could return to the back burner.
Not this time. My dream is like a child who’s been slumbering peacefully, but is now stirring, impatient for the day ahead. So I’ve been back on the keyboard, with a new resolve, and the launch of Transplanting Holly Oakwood is in sight.
Thanks for sharing my dream. Now I’d like to know – what’s yours?
I’m not sure I’ve actually had any dream as specific as yours. I do remember wanting to be an astronaut, astronomer, engineer, teacher, work at Scott Base, Pilot, the list goes on… Instead of doing any of those I filled my life with obessesions such as rock climbing, mountianeering, hiking, skydiving, Judo, body building, travel… . These were things that I did while holding down a job and raising a family.
As I reflect on this I notice that the dreams I had were about vocation, job and status. My real life however has been all about work and family. The things I did for fun were all about personal challenge and growth. Each of these aspects held a different level of importance depending on where I was in life. The challenge for me (and i suspect many others) is keeping these things in a state of equilibrium (note – this is not the same balance) they all overlap and all contribute to who I am and as a result cannot be viewed as seperate things to be balanced or traded against each other. My dream has grown to a vision of a life that is complete with a partner with whom I share respect and love, a family that is there in the way families aught to be, friends, and freedom to aspire and achieve things that scare me to death and put a smile on my face.
I am a very fortunate man, I have all the things I need to live my dream.
Well done on living your dream. I know its Chick Lit but I can’t wait to read your first book
Thanks for your comments Eric and for sharing your dream. You are a lucky man indeed, and your partner and family are lucky to have such a caring and well-balanced person in their life. People like you inspire romance novels, and romance is what we all love.